On the path to surpassing oneself, sometimes we seek to achieve a goal that is actually not worth it.
Indeed, we want to have total control over our emotions ; we do everything to be happy and in a good mood in all circumstances, and we therefore believe that we must avoid as much as possible to be in a bad mood and that we must repress anger or any other negative emotion.
But having such behavior is ultimately not very effective, because the emotions are fleeting. You can’t be happy all the time, just like you can’t sleep all day, or sneeze continuously.
Some people try to hide their negative emotions, and suddenly they compensate by eating poorly, taking drugs, watching excessively television, smoking, or spending their life at work.
If this behavior is successful, it is only temporarily, because even if they are buried, negative emotions still exist.
From all this emerges a very important detail: our genes constantly remind us that we have things to do. In fact, we feed on the need to control everything, even our feelings.
Where does the problem come from?
Try to stare at an object and move it with the strength of your mind alone. It’s possible ? Even if you concentrate, you won’t be able to move an object just by imagining yourself doing it.
There, you are probably wondering why take this example? Quite simply because it can allow you to understand that your thoughts can only have an impact on reality if you turn them into actions.
Even if you love someone very much, a relationship can only exist if you take action, if you turn your emotions into action.
Invisible beings cannot affect you physically
Try to see your emotions as imaginary beings that pester you all the time, but are not able to affect you as much. It is important to understand and convince yourself that even though your emotions are there, they do not have the power to destroy you.
To suppress our emotions or not want to see them is not to accept all the facets of our personality, it is to deny a part of ourselves. Better to feel your emotions, identify them, observe them, and make sure they don’t take over. Once we understand this, we can successfully take advantage of each of our emotions.
For example, sadness or anger are not inherently negative emotions because they can help us be more creative and exercise more. Suddenly, we make sure that the “invisible beings” that are our emotions can be a source of inspiration in all the activities we engage in.
Fear, for example, can lead us to predict future events and thus become more suspicious when we consider an activity to be dangerous.
Great works of art were not made in a situation of catharsis. Music, for example, can only develop if one uses one’s feelings to compose it, just as novels can only exist if the writer takes his emotions into account in order to understand his characters.
In other words, artists are aware of their emotions and direct them to something positive, which allows them to obtain the fruit of their creation.
Everything you need to know about emotions
In short, excessively controlling or suppressing your emotions is one of the biggest mistakes you can make on your way to personal development.
We must at all costs avoid stifling our emotions, and understand that they are only temporary. The best thing to do is to let them develop without interfering and cohabit with them in a positive state of mind.
We must allow ourselves to feel our humanity, and the emotions that go with it. This is what the Greeks did, who understood Man in all his complexity and who took into account all human emotions.
Knowing yourself is an important part of the process. If we know how to react to certain situations, we are then able to anticipate our emotions and coexist with them.
We allow ourselves without problem to experience certain feelings such as happiness, joy or enthusiasm because they give rise to a feeling of well-being. However, even other less pleasant feelings are also a part of life and it is not good to hide them or deny them.
For example, it is difficult to achieve satisfaction, since for this you must first go through phases of frustration, anger or sadness.
On the other hand, once one feels the satisfaction, it can last a long time and one will thank oneself for having had the courage and the patience to go through various negative emotions in order to reach a state of satisfaction.