Pride, The Self-esteem Trap

In pride, there is grandeur, arrogance, and self-centeredness. But also insecurities, fears and loopholes. It’s a self-esteem trap that blinds those who come into your game.
Pride, the self-esteem trap

There are people who think they are all powerful. Way above others and still believe they are right. These are the ones who are so passionate about themselves that everything is too small for them. No one can teach them or show them anything because they “knew” it. It is the mark of pride.

Their ears are closed and their eyes are blind to anything that has nothing to do with them. They are so focused on themselves that they miss everything else, even if they are unaware of it.

Its appearance is a matter of safety. But there is no one more uncertain than one who believes himself to be the holder of the truth. In reality, what happens to them is that they are full of pride. Let’s dig deeper.

People overcome with pride don't see reality in the face

What is pride?

According to psychiatrist Enrique Rojas, pride is unbridled passion for oneself. The trap of self-esteem. The lack of humility and lucidity.

It is a feeling of appreciation in which the person focuses their attention on themselves because they consider themselves excellent, unique and far above others.

Pride is considered to be one of the gravest sins of Christianity. In addition, in ancient Greece, it was referred to as hybris . It denoted a person who had grown up and defied the will of the gods, therefore tried to transgress the limits of his humanity and received divine punishment for it. As an example of arrogant attitudes, we can cite Oedipus or Prometheus.

In the fields of psychology and philosophy, a blurred distinction is drawn between pride and pride. Some view these with a more positive and emotional sense from which we can value ourselves and others, and this is sometimes easy to hide. While pride is conceived as superior to others by the fact of being oneself, this is why they also owe it respect and admiration.

In pride, others do not exist. Now, the one who does not pay attention to his pride can go further and end up cultivating arrogant attitudes.

Thus, pride is a friend of pride, vanity, lust for power, narcissism and self-centeredness. Everything is too small for him. The one who has pride is not only egocentric, does not value the opinions of others because he is blind. However, you need constant feedback on the image you are projecting to others. What is happening is that the strategies you put in place to receive it are very subtle.

The insecurity of pride

Pride is characterized by the fact that in addition to being illusory and explosive, it is a disguise that culminates in insecurity, lack of self-confidence and a feeling of inferiority. Although on several occasions it also occurs in a masked manner.

Both in one and the other, the person remains blind to his mistakes because he is trapped by his airs of grandeur. An excellence that hides a deep fear of lack and of being less than others and that tries to survive and be loved.

So, behind pride, there is fear. The fear of not being able, of not being good, sufficient or recognized. And before the inability to assume it, to accept these fears and these wounds, they are reconciled. For this reason, pride serves to “balance” these shortcomings and to serve as a defense mechanism because it helps to reject rather than to be rejected.

So, someone who is proud usually does not admit his mistakes because it reminds him that he is not as perfect as he thought he was and as a result it will be very difficult for him to ask for forgiveness as he considers that he is never wrong. Just as he also thinks he is right, because he incurs the error of authority.

However, the arrogant cares a lot about the opinion and attention of others, even if he is indifferent. He therefore conducts certain behaviors to obtain them.

As we see, the self-esteem of the arrogant person is deflated. She is very weak, because she is full of insecurity, but she hides her in a haughty disguise. Because of this, when she feels attacked, she often gets angry, loses control, disqualifies herself, becomes defensive, or stops talking for a while. She has the emotional maturity of a child.

A young woman thinking about pride and pride

The antidote to pride: humility

In the face of pride, humility is the order of the day. Learn to lead a simpler life in which the value of what is important prevails. Like love, simplicity and generosity. However, there is a previous step and that is recognizing and accepting that you are proud. Otherwise, pride cannot be dissipated.

Once accepted, it’s about being honest with yourself: what am I afraid of? What hurts me? What is it that makes me suffer? Why do I have to be recognized as the best or the most valid?

In addition, it is also important to change the direction of the focus. There is no longer only self, but also others. You need to put your own importance into perspective and know how to look at others.

To do this, it is important to show empathy, to know how to put yourself in the other’s shoes, to learn to receive criticism and to accept your own mistakes and faults.

It is a question, little by little, of getting rid of this protective disguise worn for so many years. But who, in turn, has done so much damage. It’s lowering your guard. Recognize your own limits. And forget about getting so big, because in reality you are not that small.


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