Love is one of the most powerful environmental factors when we develop, and when we grow.
This is why, educating our children in affection, constitutes the fundamental pillar of growth, and this since the earliest childhood.
By assuming this educational responsibility, we offer our children the possibility of controlling their brain development; in other words, one will be willing to manage their biology through the influence of their emotional capacities.
Therefore, we have in our hands the opportunity to promote their psychological and physical well-being for the rest of their lives.
It is enough to offer them our tenderness and to make them perceive it so that in their brain the most wonderful connections flourish.
Love our children, it will protect them throughout their life
A study conducted at the Washington University School of Medicine uncovered evidence establishing the importance of love, care, and affection in children’s brain development.
Thus, it has been proven that tenderness allows a more successful development of the hippocampus, the brain structure essential for learning, memorization and stress management.
In the journal Proceedings , which was the first to publish these findings, the specialists carried out a study grouping on the one hand parents who are considerate of their babies, and on the other those who are generally less so. .
Several years later, researchers were able to verify using magnetic resonance images that children who received tenderness had a more developed hippocampus than those who did not grow up in love.
It is important to point out here that having a small hippocampus increases the risk of being confronted with certain problems such as depression, stress, or certain dementias, such as Alzheimer’s for example.
It is therefore obvious that it is much more advantageous for a child to grow up in a loving family.
A smile as an umbrella for life
To understand this, we must know that what we understand via emotions is the translation that we make of the biochemical changes that occur in our brain, as well as the psychophysiological behaviors that they generate in our body.
In this sense, it is important to know that serotonin is one of the chemicals responsible for the occurrence of our emotional reactions.
We know that it plays an important role in the balance of our mood, as well as in the management of stressful situations.
Our children can be helped to maintain adequate levels of serotonin through emotional exchange, a healthy diet and a balanced lifestyle.
As a result, they will then be able to better manage conflict situations, and will see a reduction in their impulsivity, aggressiveness, and even regulation of their body temperature, blood pressure, digestion and sleep.
Once we know all this, we are then better able to understand why a simple smile can serve as an umbrella for a child.
Experts report that when you smile, the temperature of the cerebral cortex decreases due to the contraction of the blood vessels surrounding the facial muscles. As a result, the production of serotonin increases.
This is why it is so important that our children smile and be happy, because in this way their brain sends them a neurochemical signal which helps them to assure them that everything is going to be okay.
Tips for educating your children in love
It has already been proven that by educating our children in love, we will contribute to their good development not only emotional, but also physical, social and cognitive.
We must therefore take this into account and favor certain supports, certain aids or certain attitudes allowing our children to feel loved and to have the impression that they deserve to receive love.
Read the rest of this article, and you’ll find some of our tips for doing this.
1. A child should never feel that the love he receives depends on his actions.
Children should know that love is not conditional. In other words, we should avoid saying things like “if you do this, I won’t love you anymore, but if you don’t, then I will love you even more”.
Since mistakes are a part of their life, a child cannot grow up thinking that it will make them more or less important to their parents.
Ultimately, children should feel that they are loved for who they are, and not for what they do.
2. Help them adapt better
If they are helped to understand that the world is not a fairy tale, then they will be willing to understand and face the reality of the environment in which they live, a place where the stress and worry of life prevail. same way as tenderness and love.
In this way, we make sure that they are not ignorant, that they are aware of the existence of stress and problems (always explaining this to them according to their level of understanding).
This will allow them to develop neural pathways that will allow them to adapt to the world in which they live.
3. Help them control their emotions
Like any type of education, emotional education requires examples. Therefore, we must teach our children that there is no invalid emotion or feeling.
Outbursts of jealousy and anger are normal and natural, you just need to know how to manage them so that they do not interfere or overflow.
4. Talk to them about their feelings
As we have said many times before, words only account for 10% of the true meaning that one gets through emotional communication.
This is why they should be helped to understand how their emotions manifest in their intonation, body language, posture and facial expressions.
Educating our children in love, understanding and respect will help their brain growth and shape their development in the rest of the aspects of life.