The hardest boundaries to break and overcome are the boundaries that reside in our mind. Anthony Robbins, one of the most famous motivators of our time and who has probably contributed the most to personal change over the past 30 years, suggests that success is 80% psychology and 20% strategy.
The problem is that the limits of the strategy are usually studied and nurtured, but the mental limits go unnoticed, hidden behind the personality. Mental limitations as such do not exist in reality, and are often the product of our own imagination. The only way to change your limits is to first understand how you create them.
The more mental limits we have, the worse the image we will have of ourselves. Our limits distort our self-esteem and this affects the results we get. We act on the basis of how we see ourselves.
In the face of adversity, we have two options: try to avoid it, or face it. I cannot be more convinced that a life without adversity is a sterile life. Each of us is the result of the lessons we have learned in complicated situations.
Adverse situations are the scenario that takes us out of our comfort zone to other much more rewarding situations. The area that is on the other side of what makes us comfortable is an area that allows us to expand, to discover specific traits and remedies, unknown to all until this moment, and this allows us to make the walls of the steps of stairs to be climbed.
When adversity calls you, remember these words from the father of Psychology, Sigmund Freud; i have been a lucky man in life: nothing has been easy for me.
The only way to eliminate our mental limits is to question them, or rather challenge them. First, before we put ourselves to the test, we must ask ourselves if what we have thought and what we have believed for a time is really true. In other words, we have to look in the evidence, and not in our so-called real and categorical limits of what we actually think.
Once our limits are questioned, we need to check whether we have already challenged them, and if so when we did, how we did, and what pushed us-es to do it. If we haven’t done it before, we will tend to wonder what could be due, and what could we need to do it.
To successfully challenge the boundaries that we believe surround us, it is necessary to ask what would happen if we decided to break them. This simple question, along with the visualization of ourselves that corresponds to it and breaks our boundaries, can help us break out of the fear that can be generated by taking a step into the unknown. And above all, lead us to wonder what will happen if we do nothing. Sadly, we already know the answer to this question; if we do nothing, probably nothing will change.
It is important that we start to be aware of what we can change in our mind. The simple fact of including in the sentence “I cannot do it” a “yet” is a simple change which generates a very positive unconscious effect. This added word opens up the possibility of achieving what, until now, we had not been able to achieve. Do not forget ; challenging your limits is the first step in overcoming them.