If you learn to be flexible, you will be able to choose the posture that best meets your interests. Genuine human power is nourished by mental flexibility. And not of these principles (presented as acquired) having lost all sensitivity vis-à-vis what is happening. Ultimately, happiness is movement. It always responds to the mind that knows how to lead personally, that accepts emotions, that connects and takes care of its center of interest and that has clear goals.
When we talk about mental flexibility, it is very common to instantly visualize a bamboo forest. The one where, in the middle of a storm or a cyclone, the trees bend with each gust of wind or water to then resume their initial position. The metaphor illustrates the concept very well. However, the authentic magic of bamboo is not found in its flexible property: it is in its resistance.
In fact, our health doesn’t just depend on what we do. It also depends on what we think, in addition to other factors such as genetics that we can explore. Thus, we sometimes do not detect the weakness of our emotional and psychological balance. Our mind is therefore not always the most pleasant place to live. In him can develop too many fears, obsessions, sorrows, negative dialogues …
As Jenny Moix explains in her book Mi mente sin m í , we need to be aware of the fact that genuine happiness does not only encompass the tiles that our feet crush. A good part of our possibilities for well-being lies in the health of our mental processes. By following this course of action, we can say that we will be able to adopt a more resilient approach to challenges and adversities only if we are able to learn to be more flexible.
Be flexible to experience less negative emotions
Those who move forward on a daily basis by adopting a rigid and inflexible mental approach will inevitably stop in front of the obstacles which will present themselves under pain of being destroyed. In this way, a mind that does not know how to adapt, relativize or automatically control its thoughts is not protected and even less happy.
Many scientific studies present the same reality: psychologically flexible people are willing to enjoy a better quality of life. This approach will allow them to manage their emotions much better, respond creatively to difficulties and enjoy much more positive and fulfilling social relationships.
Jenny Moix, author of Mi mente sin mí
Jenny Moix is an author and full professor in Psychology at the Autonomous University of Barcelona (UAB). She is also a member of the Stress and Health research group. Their research is focused on the field of chronic pain, awareness and mindfulness.
- In her book Mi mente sin m í , she tells us about a special matter: to understand a little more the anatomy and the behavior of our mind. With this work, Jenny Moix teaches us to observe ourselves carefully. We also learn to know how to put a distance to see the rumor that lives in our mental patterns : the emotions and thoughts that spread, the catastrophic concerns that flood everything …
- If we practice mindfulness and learn to be flexible, we will be able to illuminate elements that lie at a greater depth. This is the only way we can manage to follow the thread and be responsible for our suffering in the event that it does appear.
In addition, on the La Mente es Maravillosa page (Spanish version of Our Thoughts) we have the online course S er flexible para ser feliz in which Jenny Moix shows us how to train our minds in flexibility to learn to be happy. In this way, we will be able to improve our well-being and our personal growth. It can be a moving and enriching experience.
Train our psychological flexibility to be happy
Be flexible to be happy. This should probably be our daily motto. However, when we have lived half of our lives immersed in the mental dynamics of preoccupation, anxiety, insecurity and inherited patterns conditioning us; it is very difficult to change habits, approaches and lifestyle …
We should take things differently, put things into perspective, train our flexibility to be more resistant to change and adversity, but how do we do it? As we generally say, it is not always good to always focus on the results, on what we want to be or achieve. The closest objectives would allow us to reward us more frequently by implementing different strategies at the same time.
- Let’s stop thinking in absolute terms. Let’s stop thinking that the opposite of white is black. Whether in life we can be with or without someone. Let’s dig up the diagrams in which there are only two drawers: the good and the bad.
- Let us motivate ourselves to discover the world with nuances which open up between the two poles. Little by little, we will realize that we are wrong about a lot of things. That reality is full of details, riches, principles, learning, points of view …
The present moment
- Our mind loves to wander, it loves to take a step back on yesterday or what it could be one day, what it was or what it was not. He has the bad habit of traveling into the future without a time machine to anticipate catastrophes, disasters and the unspoken.
- Let’s stop it. Let us limit this traveling spirit and learn to seduce it with the present moment, with the here and now where what really matters takes place.
Connect with what matters
Being flexible means not losing our roots. This means that we need to be connected to our values and to what really matters. In this way, it will be more difficult for us to be impacted by the judgments and opinions of others. As well as everything that surrounds us.
In conclusion, few skills and abilities are as beneficial as psychological flexibility. It’s a much better way to resist the unexpected (but recurring) comings and goings that usually arise during our life cycle. Going deeper into this and acquiring the appropriate tools on this subject can help us enjoy a better quality of life.